“I ejaculate too soon. What’s the best way to control ejaculation?”
Premature ejaculation, or the inability to last as long in bed as we want to, is a problem that majority of men face. Statistics shows us that 8 out of 10 men can only last for 2 minutes or less. To understand why this happens, let’s look at how sex happens for millions of men.
For most men, sex starts off in a carefree way. The progression from foreplay to penetration happens very quickly. And after just a few minutes, pleasurable sensations build up rapidly. Before long, a man reaches the point of no return and realizes that he’s going to explode. By the time they reach the point of no return, the sensations are so overwhelming that it’s no longer possible to stop.
One of first thing I always teach men when it comes to controlling premature ejaculation is the Stimulation Awareness Scale. This is a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is not stimulated at all, and 10 which is the climax. On this scale, the point of no return would be an 8. Once a man reaches this level on the scale, it’s near impossible to reverse it.
How should men use this scale? Well, from the time sex is initiated, a man should keep tabs on his stimulation level, and think about where he is on this scale. If he is keeping tabs, then he can take evasive action when he is at a 6 or a 7 to delay ejaculation and bring stimulation levels down to a 3 or a 4.
Prolonged sex happens when you are able to go from 1 to a 7, then back down to a 3 or 4, up again, then back down on the stimulation. Keep on doing this until both you and your partner are ready for you to come.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“How Do I Help My Guy Last Longer in Bed? Is There Something I Can Do?”
An understanding and supportive partner is a plus when it comes to helping a man last longer in bed. Of course, you need to adjust how you show your concern. You know your partner best. If he’s open enough to bring it up with you, then you know you can talk about it openly with him. But if he’s never brought it up, it’s possible that he’s just not ready to own up to it.
In my experience, being constructive or offering concrete solutions is an approach that many men welcome. Instead of presenting solutions to premature ejaculation, you can entice your man with new sexual activities that you can do together.
One such activity that you can introduce your man to is “live action edging”.
Edging is the method a man can use to stop from climaxing when he’s really turned on, reign himself in, and go for longer. It is used in conjunction with the Stimulation Awareness Scale, a scale of 1 to 10, where one is not stimulated at all, and 10 is the climax.
Before you do this, it is important to introduce your man to the idea, and brief him that you will be going from one position to another.
Here’s how it goes. When you start having sex, your man should take tabs of his stimulation level. Don’t worry, it sounds like it takes the fun out of sex, but really, it heightens sex because your partner will be made aware of how turned on he is at every moment. Encourage him to talk about how stimulated he is so you can help him keep tab on how near he is to climaxing.
Start in one position. It doesn’t really matter which position it is, but for beginners, I recommend the missionary position because it allows the man better control of how deeply and how fast he penetrates his partner. When your man has reached a 6 or a 7, bring activity down a notch, and prepare to switch to a new position. This should bring stimulation levels down to a 3 or 4. Now, you are free to work your way up to a 6 or 7. After which you can repeat the process until you are both ready for him to come.
Just like anything else, practice makes perfect. With this technique, the more you practice, the longer your partner will be able to go before needing to come.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“What Ejaculation Control Exercises Can I Do So I Can Last Longer In Bed?”
This is a question I get asked frequently. Many men are open to doing exercises if these can help build their sexual stamina. Fortunately, there are things that you can do to build your ability to control the timing of your orgasm. Here are 2 exercises that you can try:
1. The Blast Technique
The blast technique aims to improve your ability to stop coming just as when your really, really aroused. In a scale of 1 to 10, this would be stopping when you reach an 8 or a 9.
When performing this technique, you need to be undisturbed for a few minutes. Some men choose to do it while taking a shower, which is great because this allows you to do this exercise regularly, which increases its efficacy.
Here’s what you do. Use whatever method you want to get yourself aroused very quickly. Put some lube in your hand and just jerk your penis fast and hard. Keep going at it so you rapidly come close to coming. Just as you feel yourself approaching the point of no return, stop jerking it and try to step back.
2. The Edging Technique
The edging technique is an exercise that trains your mind and your body to recognize when you should reduce stimulation and then build it up again. This kind of exercise will train you to extend your ability to have sex longer by controlling the level of stimulation that you expose yourself to.
All throughout this exercise, I want you to be mindful of the amount of stimulation that you feel. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate yourself every few seconds.
Here’s what you do. Use your preferred method to get yourself stimulated. When you feel that you have reached a 6 or a 7, stop and bring yourself back to a 3 or 4. Next, build your way up again on the stimulation scale, to a 7 or an 8, before stopping and bringing yourself back down.
When both of these exercises are done regularly, they can help you build your sexual stamina and ejaculation control.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees immediate and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“I sometimes find myself cumming too quickly. Is the problem all in my head?”
The mind is a powerful thing. It influences many of our actions and our thoughts consciously and subconsciously. That the mind also has to do with the problem of cumming too quickly is no surprise.
But is the problem all in your head? Not entirely. Majority of men simply don’t know any better. They don’t know what techniques to use in order to delay ejaculation. it’s not their fault. This stuff isn’t taught in school, after all.
Now, for all men, the problem starts in the head. If you know you have a problem with cumming too quickly, the tendency is to worry about it each time you initiate sex with your partner. I’m sure you can appreciate why this can make premature ejaculation worse. The more we worry about something happening, the more we help that undesirable outcome from coming true. The more often it happens, the more we think it’s inevitable.
Fortunately, compared to life’s other problems, premature ejaculation is fairly easy to get rid of. You just need to have the right mindset and the right skills and you can say good bye to it permanently. No need for any pills, creams or surgery.
When I talk about having the right mindset, I mean having an optimistic attitude when it comes to your sexual performance. Believing that you can last longer than your current performance is important. Thinking that your are experiencing a temporary set back instead of a permanent state will give you the proper encouragement to practice the techniques and see massive improvement in your sexual stamina.
One method I teach that channels the mind’s energy into something more productive than worrying about a negative outcome is the Stimulation Awareness Scale. This is a scale of 1 to 10 that a man uses from the time he initiates sex until the end of the sexual encounter. It is designed to help him gauge the level of arousal he is experiencing. 1 is not stimulated at all, and 10 is climaxing.
An awareness of his stimulation level will help him understand how quickly certain positions or certain maneuvers can affect him. It will also help him identify how far he is from ejaculating, and to be able to do something to bring down his arousal level before he reaches the point of no return. It is specially helpful when learning techniques designed to improve sexual stamina.
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“Is it true that premature ejaculation is caused by sexual inexperience?”
Sexual inexperience causes anxiety which contributes to premature ejaculation or the inability to last as long as you want in bed. Sexual inexperience by itself cannot cause premature ejaculation. There are plenty of men who have been having sex for years and still have ejaculation problems.
Anxiety can be caused by a lot of factors aside from sexual inexperience. Thinking about past experiences where you’ve come earlier than you or your partner wanted can cause anxiety. Worrying about not being able to satisfy your partner in bed can cause anxiety. Fear of embarrassment can also lead to performance anxiety. Problems not related to sex, such as financial worries, conflict at work or in personal relationships can also cause anxiety.
Identifying the root case of anxiety is important when controlling premature ejaculation. If you determine that your performance anxiety is caused by sexual inexperience, then the solution involves learning more advanced sexual skills that will allow you to become a better lover. If the root cause is past failure to last long enough in bed, then it’s important to dispel these negative thoughts and build sexual control or stamina to improve your sexual performance.
When dealing with anxiety induced premature ejaculation, one thing that many men find helpful is being in action. This means actively doing something – anything – to improve the situation. Men are natural problem solvers. If something is wrong, they want to be doing something to fix it. This reduces worry and creates a more positive mindset, which is important when dealing with premature ejaculation.
I’d like to add though that some advice out there that are meant to help with premature ejaculation don’t help at all. Things like counting backwards or reciting the pledge of allegiance or thinking of unpleasant thoughts just as you are about to climax are not effective. They only serve to ruin the pleasurable experience that sex is supposed to be. If this is what you’ve tried and it hasn’t worked for you, well it’s really no surprise.
So, for a man who is faced with premature ejaculation, what are the things that he can do to improve his sexual performance? A lot! There are exercises, sexual positions and even food that can help increase a man’s sexual stamina. There are things that he can do solo to build sexual control, and techniques that he can apply in live action.
One tip that I can share with your quickly right now is the importance of proper breathing during sex. For many men, the reflex is to hold our breath thinking this will delay ejaculation. But actually, holding our breath or breathing irregularly just makes it that much quicker. So next time you’re in the sack, be conscious about being relaxed and breathing evenly. It’s a simple solution that works wonders.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“What Foods Can Help Me Last Longer During Intercourse?”
Our diet affects our health and our sexual performance. Apart from giving us energy, some foods contain special properties that can help men last longer in bed.
Of course, diet alone will not magically turn men into super sexual beings. But with the right diet combined with the right exercises and techniques, men will be able to overcome staying power problems much quicker.
Here are 5 foods for sexual stamina that you should incorporate into your diet:
- Mucuna pruriens or cowhage – This herb is known for improving premature ejaculation. Aside from this, it is also a known aphrodisiac that increases a man’s sex drive, improves semen quality and volume.
- Blueberry – This sexual super food is often called “nature’s viagra” because it naturally helps the body achieve what the little blue pill can do. Blueberries are packed with minerals and compounds that improve circulation and helps the blood vessels to relax, which are both important to sustain firmer and longer lasting erections.
- Almonds – A popular and delicious nut is known to improve sexual energy and vigor.
- Asparagus – This spear shaped vegetable is considered an aphrodisiac because of its ability to enhance a person’s sexual energy. Many believe it is due to the high iodine and vitamin E content of asparagus which enhances the production of sex hormones.
- Winter cherry – Another herb that is used to treat premature ejaculation, the winter cherry is also called the Indian Ginseng. It helps improve blood circulation and relaxes the blood vessels in the body.
Remember, these foods together with exercise, a healthy lifestyle, stress management and the right sexual techniques will be able to help you last longer during intercourse. As with all things natural, persistence and practice is needed in order to see permanent results.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“I’m currently doing exercises to help with premature ejaculation. However, there are times when I still come too quickly. How should I deal with premature ejaculation to avoid embarrassment when I’m with my partner?”
First of all, I want to commend you for doing something to overcome premature ejaculation. Exercises will help improve sexual stamina, but just like what you are experiencing, your ability for control going to be more consistent the longer you keep at it. Initially, experiencing a lapse every now and then is normal and should be expected.
So, as for your question, what is the best way to approach this topic with your partner in a way that will not leave you embarrassed. There is no single approach to broaching this topic, and a lot of it has to do with the state of your relationship with your partner.
If you and your partners are in a long term and supportive relationship, being open is the best approach to avoid embarrassment. Remember that you are doing this not just for yourself, but also for her sexual fulfillment and gratification. Involving her and getting her support helps you and your relationship. In fact, there are many exercises that involve a cooperative partner, so actually having her in on it will be a weight off of your chest.
If you are not quite ready to be so open, then you can still avoid embarrassment by being careful about what you say in times when you do come early. Think about it because your words will shape how she views it.
Here are two ways of telling her, and you can see from these examples how your words can shape her attitude towards the situation. Imagine you’re having sex with your partner and you realize you’re about to come sooner than expected. Do you tell your partner:
“I’m sorry, honey…”
Or do you tell her:
“You’re so hot. Damn, I don’t think I want to hold it in much longer.”
In the first example, embarrassment is inevitable. You just admitted to an inability to hold on for as long as you need to. Clearly, this approach should not be used.
In the second example, you made it appear like you are in control and that you want to come. You also complemented your partner for being very sexy, which I’m sure will ruffle any feelings of disappointment she may have had.
So, the important thing is you keep at it. The more you practice those techniques, the more consistent you will be in maintaining control over your sexual performance.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“What are the best sex positions to delay ejaculation?”
Before I talk about the best sex positions to delay ejaculation, let me talk briefly about the principle behind how sex positions can help you control and prevent premature ejaculation.
You see, for each sex position, we experience varying degrees of control and stimulation. Some sex positions, like the missionary position and the spoons position, lets you control how deep you penetrate and how fast you thrust. Some positions like the missionary position again, but this time with the woman’s legs raised up, can be very stimulating because the vagina is narrowed and tightened. It’s more stimulating compared to the regular missionary position.
Now, control is very important when we want to last longer in bed. Being in control when it comes to how fast and how deep you penetrate will allow you to slow it down a bit when you need to cool down. Knowing which positions bring the least stimulation will allow you to vary your maneuvers so you can treat yourself and your partner to a number of moves. What’s great about this is that you get to use the best sex positions to delay ejaculation while at the same time you get to be a more sophisticated lover.
How much control and how stimulating each sex position is varies from person to person, and even couple to couple. After all, it’s not only you who is making the moves. How your partner performs in bed also affects how much control and how much stimulation you receive from each position.
The best way to determine which position works for you and your partner is for you to actually go ahead and do it. While you are in different positions, make a mental note of how stimulated you are in each position, and how quickly you can shift to another position from where you are at that point.
Once you have your list, you are now ready to create your sexual repertoire. You can initiate sex with positions that offer the least stimulation first and the most stimulation last or you can alternate them. What I want you to understand is there is no need to be stuck in a single routine that works for you, because there are many routines that can work for you. And that’s how you can determine and use the best sex positions to delay ejaculation.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“What is the PC muscle and how can it help prevent premature ejaculation?”
PC muscle is short for pubococcygeus muscle. It plays an important role in getting and maintaining a firm erection. It is also important in maintaining control over our ejaculation. After all, it’s the muscle that controls the flow of semen and urine and the shooting power of your ejaculate.
Many agree that exercising the PC muscle can help prevent the occurrence of premature ejaculation, and can help improve a man’s overall sexual performance. But before you can exercise the PC muscle, it is important for you to be able to identify where it is.
The best way to pinpoint or to feel where your PC muscles are is to try and stop your urine mid-flow. The muscle that you tense to stop the flow of urine is your PC muscles. Your PC muscles is also the one that you feel twitching every second when you are ejaculating.
An exercise for the PC muscles is called the Kegel exercise. The exercise itself is not difficult. What’s difficult is making sure that you are tensing the right muscles. It can be easy to think you are tensing the PC muscle when you are actually tensing your abdomen or your buttocks. So, however you decide to do it, it’s important that you know exactly where your PC muscles are to begin with.
When exercising your PC muscles, your goal is to eventually increase frequency and duration. Here’s a sample routine that you can try:
Week 1
Kegel exercise 1:
Tense and release your PC muscles. Make about 5 repetitions in 10 seconds. Rest for 10 seconds. Repeat 5 more times.
Kegel exercise 2:
Tense and hold your PC muscles for 5 seconds. Rest for 5 seconds. Repeat 5 more times.
You want to do the Kegel exercises at least once daily. After about a week, you should be able to increase the repetitions and the duration of your Kegel exercises. Here’s a sample workout:
Week 2
Kegel exercise 1:
Tense and release your PC muscles. Make about 10 repetitions in 20 seconds. Rest for 10 seconds. Repeat 5 more times.
Kegel exercise 2:
Tense and hold your PC muscles for 20 seconds. Rest for 5 seconds. Repeat 5 more times.
On your second week, you want to be able to do more short bursts, and you want to be able to hold it longer. Just like any exercise, you want to start slow and then work your way until you can do more repetitions on the first exercise, and carry on for a longer duration on the second Kegel exercise.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!
“I’m aware that premature ejaculation takes time to be fully under control. But are there some things I can do now that can help delay ejaculation immediately?”
It is important for men to recognize that building sexual control and sexual stamina takes time to perfect. The earlier you get started, and the more persistent you are with the things you need to do, the faster you will see consistent results.
There is another advantage to getting started early. And it is that there are some techniques with which you will be able to see almost immediate results. These techniques are usually easy and simple to implement, and can be very encouraging.
Let me share with you a couple of techniques that can help delay ejaculation. These are simple techniques that can give you immediate results:
Technique #1:
Make sure your partner is well lubricated before you enter her. The key point to remember here is that friction increases stimulation because it increases the sensation on our penis. But if your partner is very, very wet when you enter her, it’s going to lessen the friction and prolong your ability to hold it in. Plus the fact that when you do get her this stimulated, she’ll be closer to climaxing herself.
Technique #2:
Another technique that a lot of men don’t know about involves even and relaxed breathing. What usually happens is when it hits us that we are about to come, we panic. So we stop what we’re doing and we hold our breath, hoping against hope that this will quickly and immediate delay ejaculation.
This is disastrous on so many levels. First of all, panic increases stress in the body. Secondly, it conditions the mind to expect failure. And finally, our reaction to stress, which is to tense our muscle and hold our breath, only make coming that much more inevitable.
This is why even and relaxed breathing during sex is what we should be doing. Even and relaxed breathing allows us to think clearly, to keep better tabs on our stimulation levels, so we can take preventive action when we are near the point of no return.
These 2 techniques combined with exercise, diet and a healthy lifestyle will allow you to enjoy short term results and long term gains in terms of sexual control and stamina.
Edward White is an expert on teaching men how to completely overcome premature ejaculation. He is the author of the Prejaculation Manual, which guarantees instant and permanent results when it comes to lasting longer in bed. View more of his work here: Click Here to Read More!