How To Use The Distract And Direct Technique To Keep Control Of Your Sexual Climax—Even When She’s In Charge
The three most common sex positions that involve the woman being in control of the action are, of course, her on top facing you (cowgirl), her on top facing away from you (reverse cowgirl) and doggy style. Doggy style might at first seem like a position in which the man is in control, but in reality, quite often the girl will start to move backwards and forwards, and well, you get the idea. She takes control and the guy stands or kneels as the action goes on.
So, with these two positions in mind, how do you control your stimulation levels without stopping the action? Well, you don’t. You use the Distract and Direct technique. Here’s how.
Let’s say your partner is on top of you, in cowgirl. She’d riding you and it’s all good. Then you start to feel yourself moving rapidly up the stimulation scale, past a 5 and towards a 7.
To clarify, the stimulation scale is something you can use in your head to identify how stimulated you are and therefore how close you are to reaching your climax. 0 is not stimulated at all. 3 is somewhat stimulated but still in total control. 6 is where you really start to feel stimulated. If you carried on with this level of stimulation, you’d rise to the next number on the scale: 7. 7 is where you’re very sexually stimulated. When you go above a 7 on the stimulation scale, you get close to the point of no return which is a 9. Passing the point of no return means you’re definitely going to ejaculate, no matter what you do.
By the time you reach 7 on this scale, you want to know that you’re going to be able to adjust the action in such a way that will allow you to slowly bring your stimulation level back down. Here’s how.
She’s riding you and has been doing so for a minute or two. You reach 7 on the scale. You say to her, “That feels so good. Come here, I want to kiss you.” She’ll then bend down to kiss you. So instead of sitting up straight, she’s now on top of you, with her head near yours and her chest pretty much parallel to your torso.
Start kissing her and slowly take over the action. Because she’s leaning forward so much, she’ll naturally stop or vastly slow down the amount of bouncing and grinding she’s doing. You can now place your hands on her rear and take over the thrusting AT YOUR OWN SPEED. This gives you the chance to get back to where you want to be on the stimulation scale. So, kissing her is the distraction and taking over the thrusting and movement is the direction.
When you’re ready for her to start again, stop kissing her and bring your hands back to your sides. She’ll naturally sit up again and take over once more. There’s no agreement or discussion here—it just works by itself because of the change in body positions.
Now let’s imagine you’re in doggy and she’s controlling the back and forth movement. You realize you’re around the 7 mark on the scale. You need to distract and direct. Distract by leaning forward a little, reaching around her waist and rubbing her clit. This will make her slow down her movement.
Now slowly begin to take over the thrusting, until you’re going at a fair speed. At which point, lean back so you’re vertical again and carry on. When you’re ready for her to take over once more, stop thrusting and she’ll feel a natural urge take control again.
The Distract and Direct technique works so well because the girl always feels like she’s the one controlling the action, even when—for a minute or two—you take over. She doesn’t realize this happens because she gets distracted by kissing or rubbing or something. Before she knows it, she’s back controlling the action. This makes sex feel two-way, shared and therefore damn good, for you and for her.
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